3 Things to Remember Before You Call It Quits in Marriage

Source: 3 Things to Remember Before You Call It Quits in Marriage

OOver the years, more questions than any other have popped up on my blog. Although these questions are pronounced in different ways by different people at different times, these questions usually go something like this:

“What if I’m the only one making an effort for my marriage?”

“What if my spouse never gives but always takes?”

“I’m so lonely in my marriage. I want to break up What should I do?”

For some, it means stopping living in the same house but giving up all hope of a healthy marriage. For others, saying goodbye means separation or even divorce. Before I head down any of these roads, I want to remind you of three important things.

1. Remember your vows.

“From this day to have and to hold, for better, for worse, richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, ’till death do us part.” The day you and your spouse got married was the day you promised all of those things as you stood before God, your family, and your friends. Remember, this commitment you made should be for life and breaking it would break that unconditional promise you once made with all your heart.

2. Remember what marriage is.

Marriage should never be a contract to be broken, but a covenant to be cherished. Here is the clear difference between an agreement and a contract.

Federation	contract
Based on unconditional love between God, a husband and a wife	Based on a conditional consideration between two people
Sacrificial action (i.e. I will do it no matter what you do)	Mutual Transaction (e.g. If you do this, then & only then will I)
Based on mutual commitment	Based on mutual distrust
addiction to give	to get addiction
For life	For now

In short, a contract is about what you get. Covenant is all about what you give.

3. Think about the purpose of marriage.

In 8 mistakes I made in marriage, I shared that in my early marriage years, I felt I was an important part of Susan’s “duty,” as my wife should make me happy. I was a bit more focused on myself than us. I didn’t think so at the time, but now, looking back, I relied on Susan to pick me up when I was down, help me on command, and attend to my physical needs when called upon…to name a few.

Have you ever thought: “As soon as I got married, then I’ll finally be happy”? It doesn’t take much marital experience to discover that this is simply not true. The only person who can ever bring you ultimate joy is God, not your spouse. Perhaps realizing this truth means changing your expectations of your spouse. Ultimately, marriage is not about happiness, it is about holiness. It is a sacred union between God, a husband and a wife – a union established to glorify God.

Are you considering ending your marriage? Did those things I reminded you about help? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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